You’ve been applying for jobs over and over, you’ve attended interview after interview and suddenly you’re in the amazing position of having more than one job offer to turn down.
Wow! You didn’t see this coming! This is great, right?
Well, it is, but you can’t accept more than one job so there’s the not-so-small matter of turning down the options you don’t want, which isn’t so great, or fun.
Regardless of whether you have multiple offers that you would never consider or a job that you would have loved, but another just fits better, there’s a professional way to do it. You can be gracious, firm, and classy with this kind of enviable task - here’s how:
One of the most important things you should do when you decline a job is to say thank you, probably more than once. This is good for you and the employer. Science tells us that 90% of Americans that are grateful in life have a more fulfilled life and more friends than those who don’t.
You had the chance to interview for a job, you took up the time of management, you used up time that other applicants couldn’t. You also got considered and selected ahead of other people. Whilst that means you did a great job; it also means time was spent enabling you to be selected and interviewed. That manager may well have also championed you above other applicants. You owe it to yourself and the company to be grateful for the interview.
If you can say a heartfelt thank you via email, you’ll start off your job offer rejection well. Here are some examples of how to say thank you:
Try to include heartfelt details that ensure the thanks don’t look generic or robotic. Perhaps you genuinely did like the person who interviewed you, or you remember a detail about the office you liked, such as the decor or feel - include it so that the compliment feels real to the recipient.
Next you need to provide a reason as to why you want to turn down the job offer.
You don’t need to go into tons of detail, but you do need to simply and politely explain that you won’t be accepting the job. It is so important not to include any negative feedback at this stage, even if you felt anything negative during the interview process. You may wish to suggest that you didn’t feel comfortable in the office environment, or that you felt the interviewer wasn’t super professional, but what will you gain? Unless there was something seriously wrong with the interview process that is causing you to turn the job down, providing negative feedback is not necessary. You should also avoid saying anything that sounds a little egotistical. The job market is hot right now, but you don’t need to explain how much more money you were offered elsewhere, or how many other jobs you were offered. This just makes you sound a little big-headed, which won’t reflect well on you.
Instead, keep it brief, polite, and to the point. It is always better to keep connections and opportunities in the background just in case you apply again there in the future, or at worst, if the job you are choosing instead falls through.
Here are some examples of how to provide a brief reason for turning the job:
There is no need to mention any other companies at this time. You may also wish to provide more details if you went through a particularly lengthy interview process. If you have gotten to know the management well, you’ve been given the chance to work in the office and you’ve made a connection with the company, you do owe them a little more of an explanation.
Lastly, do finish your email on a good note. You can do this in any way you feel is appropriate, but ideally, it signs things off in a way that does not warrant any reply other than wishing you the best.
Here are some examples of how to finish your job offer rejection email on a good note:
As with the first part of your email, keep it heartfelt and real. Just think about how you were applying for jobs over and over with no response - they would have appreciated any chance to interview. Make sure that the interviewer knows you really do value the opportunity.
Now you’re ready to embrace your new career
Hopefully, the tips above have you feeling ready and able to turn down that job like a pro.
Gracious, polite job rejection is a great way to close one chapter of your life, ready to move on to the next.